Yeaah, there is a pressure for me to get married.
My grandmother, when I visit her, she kills me. Yallah! Yallah! (laughs)
“Get off!” I say all the time.

You know, in Arabic culture, when the girl is 25 years old, it’s time. It’s the time to get married and have the children. But I think they are all crazy, really. We have to live our life! Life is good and we should live it the right way. Maybe, some of our society thinks that the right way is to marry. We should get a husband, make children. I don’t think so, yeah. I want to do the best in my work. I want to get married and have children, but I wait. I will wait till the right time…and the right person (laughs).

For my work as a divorce lawyer, I deal with marriage every day. When you see all of these problems between a husband and wife, you start thinking to yourself that maybe it will happen to me…Maybe I should not get married. I am all the time afraid that things will go wrong. My mother said, your work will destroy you because you will not think about your marriage ever!
She’s right! (laughs) She’s right.

But I like to find solutions, specifically between husband and wife. It’s a difficult law. I think that the relationship between husband and wife is very…kadosh (holy). It’s not like another kind of law, it’s not civil law. It’s like…God gave them a relationship. It’s on a different level. To work with this, to put this into law…it’s heartbreaking.

In Israel they have civil court system and religious court system. I work with all of them. In religious court it’s more difficult. In Catholicism, there is not divorce. I have one case that… someone is changing their religion in order to make a divorce! It’s not easy.

Religion is not easy. Actually, in our village, we have a problem between Muslim and Christians. It’s a different kind of conflict than Israel and Palestine. My father has a good friend who is a Muslim, and they have a relationship like brothers…more than brothers…
My mother goes every Sunday to the Church, my father too. I think they are close to God. They pray for me (laughs). They want me to be closer to God. But it’s ok…

In the future, I see myself to succeed in my work. I want to have children, one boy and one girl, and a lovely husband, and live in quiet peace. It’s about my little world. And I hope that all the problem that we have here, between Israel and Palestine, that they find the right solution. I hope so, because they have a long time been fighting, and so many honest people have been killed. I hope that they will find a solution about this problem.
No, I actually don’t see a solution. I’m sorry to say that.

We have a problem here too. The Arabs in Israel in 48’, we couldn’t connect ourselves to Israel or Palestine. We all the time stand between Israel and Palestine, we couldn’t find ourselves, not here or not there. We couldn’t put ourselves in categories. If you want to speak about Palestine, you will get the anger of Israel. And if you want to stand with Israel, you will get the anger of Palestine. It’s our…problem here. I feel…connected more with the Palestine people. I have family that had to leave in 48’. They went to Canada, they couldn’t come back here. Also in Beirut, Lebanon, and Jordan too.

It’s our land too. My father was born here, my grandfather, my great-grandfather, and I want my children to live here on their land. It’s our land too.

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Interview with Fadia Andrawis on 3/15/11
Age: 26
Date of birth: 12/23/84
Place of birth: The village of Turaan, Israel

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